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Madelyn Morgan is a music business marketing executive. After years of using her creative talent for the benefit of others, she decided to focus on her first love, writing. She also hosts a weekly radio segment (her second love), also called Mad About Men, which airs on WIYY, Baltimore. Morgan lives in New York City with her teenage kid (her true love), who is not allowed to read this book until she’s 18. Maybe 21. Maybe never.
Book sample: MAD ABOUT MEN, a MenMoir
Genre: Humor, Memoir
Synopsis: MAD ABOUT MEN IS:
- A (mostly) true, laugh-out-loud account of a successful executive single mother’s search for love.
- “Racy, raw, sometimes vulgar, always hilarious,” according to a guy in Chapter 32 who actually read it.
- An account of dating and sex from a liberated, confident, unapologetic MILF in her 40s.
- A warmly relatable story, even though it sounds like a sordid, lustful tale of promiscuity (which it also is, the author admits).
MAD ABOUT MEN IS NOT:
- A self-help book about relationships.
- About a woman who finds herself after some extreme, soul-searching, incredible journey.
- A sticking-finger-in-throat sappy account of finding true love and living happily ever after.
- Only for women to read.
Madelyn gains a new perspective on relationships after a series of major losses (some devastating, some not so much). Root for her as she entertains each potential suitor and laugh with her (or at her) as she tries to make sense of what she wants, what men want, and what to do next. Whether or not you’ve ever swiped right, Match’ed, or flirted with the flight attendant, you’ll relate to Madelyn’s search for love and (hot) sex—not necessarily in that order. Go ahead and judge her, she won’t mind.
Sample: CHAPTER 1: BANG!
My editor said I needed to start this book with a bang. So here goes…
One day, I had phenomenal sex with a particularly gorgeous personal trainer from my gym. He had the most stunningly perfect body, as those trainers tend to have. Caramel skin, abs like you read about in Six Pack magazine, thick, gorgeous, kissable lips, tricep cuts—one of my favorite parts of a fit man’s body—and the perfect-sized dick with a sweet little tattoo of unknown design in that sexy area just below his perfectly protruding hip bone.
We had been flirting hard for several months, until one Saturday afternoon at the gym we hugged each other “hello” so tightly that it was obvious something else was brewing.
After we had a spontaneous lunch together that same day, we went for a long walk along the Manhattan waterfront, held hands, and made out like high-schoolers. When he walked me back to my apartment there was very little discussion about what would be happening next.
I had been wanting to be properly laid for a long time. It’s not that I wasn’t having sex regularly with my then-boyfriend; it was just bad sex. One-way sex. I was in a rut and needed my world rocked, which it was on that day, multiple times.
I’m not sure if this is what my editor meant by start the book with a bang.
So, now let me back up and introduce myself. Wait. First, did you read Eat, Pray, Love? I know, I know, stop gagging. You may roll your eyes at that reference, or you can just admit that it was an excellent read and her journey was amazing and the book was brilliant, but it was just that disappointing movie that’s making you react negatively. Anyway, early in the book, Elizabeth Gilbert didn’t recount the details of her marriage’s end. She gave you just enough of the story so you could follow along on her journey. So, I think a nice bullet-point summary will bring you up to speed here.
- I work in the music business.
- I married a guy I met through work.
- I had a miscarriage, then had a genius-perfect-child, then another miscarriage. One for three—that was enough of that pregnancy madness.
- Four years after genius-perfect-daughter’s arrival, I had started a new job in which I was expected to deliver big results. This involves generally having your shit together. Upon my beginning said job, within a six-month period of time:
- My husband left me.
- My mother died.
- My sister died.
That kind of shit seriously fucks with you. One or maybe two of those things happening in a year is bad enough. But I felt like the dump truck of hell had just backed up making that annoying beeping noise, positioned itself right over me, reared up, and unloaded a full bed of steaming, hellish contents on my head, stopped beeping, and then drove off.
What is the current book you are promoting? I am currently promoting my “men-moir,” MAD ABOUT MEN. It’s a memoir. It’s about men. Hence, menmoir. In the book’s disclaimer, I declared it a new genre; creative-memoir-non-fiction-biography-humor type thingy. Some of the stories, names, dialogues have been fictionalized, mainly so I don’t get sued for humor’s sake.
What made you decide to sit down and actually start something? I had been regularly emailing my best friend, Chloe, with the dating stories that are in the book, as they were happening. Many of our emails are actually featured in the book, and they help tell the story. She found them hilarious, and at one point, she threatened to “start a blog,” because she figured other people would also find my writing funny.
I thought, “Why should she start a blog with my stories?” and that sparked the idea to form my stories into something more cohesive. Originally, I thought I’d write them like short stories that could stand on their own, but also relate to each other, like a David Sedaris collection (he’s one of my faves). But then, as I got going, the stories started to interconnect, and I realized I actually had a book in me. So that’s when I decided to get serious about writing it.
Do you have a special time to write or how is your day structured? My favorite time to write is in the morning, with my coffee. I could spend hours without eating, or drinking (anything but my one cup of coffee), or peeing, while my creative juices flow. Unfortunately, I have a day job. I actually have several day jobs. I also have a kid. And, I like to work out first thing in the morning. So, those blissful, peaceful, productive mornings are very rare.
I also like to write while I’m on a plane. No matter how long or short, a flight is a nice stretch of time where no one bothers me, I don’t get distracted, and I’m basically strapped to my seat, forced to focus.
What was the hardest thing about writing your latest book? Honestly, the hardest thing about writing my book was replying “APPROVED” after reviewing the final PDF proof from the publisher. Once I APPROVED it, there was no turning back.
It was difficult, but fun, and cathartic to write the book. It was encouraging to share it with my editor, and a few friends – people who already know me – because they all enjoyed it. It was exciting to talk about it “coming soon,” on my radio show.
But the point of no return, that moment of hitting SEND on the approval email, was the hardest thing. I instantly had second thoughts. The book is very personal, and it’s scary to think what people who don’t know the true me will think after reading it. I really just wanted a laugh, so hopefully that can happen, even at my expense. I have received some great reviews and positive feedback, so that’s very encouraging.
Which writers inspire you? I enjoy writers who make me laugh. Tops on my list are David Sedaris, Augusten Burroughs (who brought me to tears of laughter more than once), and Chelsea Handler. I also fell in love with Kate Mulgrew’s memoir, although it’s not at all funny, she is a brilliant writer and an incredible talent. After I read her memoir, I thought, “Oh, mine is crap. I can’t write my stupid book.”
I’ve read a zillion memoirs in the name of comparative research, and one that particularly stood out was Aziz Ansari’s. Also Taraji P. Henson’s personal story was very moving. Not that either have anything to do with inspiring my writing, I just wanted to give those a shout out. Honorable mention to Jessi Klein and Jenny Lawson for their humor writing chops.
If your book were made into a movie, whom would you cast? Funny you should ask, because my book is currently being created into a television series. Everyone involved has their own idea of who should play me, but I can’t really see any of them. Maybe I’m too close to it, I don’t know. Maybe we should just have a casting call and hire a charming, funny, talented new-comer.
Where do you come up with your stories? As you know if you read MAD ABOUT MEN, my life is not very traditional nor simple. My stories come from my own experiences. Believe it or not, I have more than what’s in the book. And now, I am having few email exchanges with readers who reached out to share their own experiences. I am actually going to use some of those (with permission, of course), because at some point I’ll run out of my own. But it’s nice to know that I’m not alone, and that many women can relate, and have their own similar dating horror stories. I welcome any and all readers to share theirs with me!
Do you or have you sat down and read your book fresh off the presses as if it wasn’t yours? And if you did, what was it like? Oh, so, other people do that? Yes, I did do that! I read my entire book from beginning to end in one sitting when the test print arrived. It was very gratifying. Until I found a typo. MF: OMG! I’m rolling here! That’s funny!
What book are you currently reading or just finished? I just finished The List, by British comedy writer, Joanna Bolouri, and I’m on to her next one now called I Followed The Rules. This woman is hilarious. I even wrote her an email after I read The List, commending her on her bravery for tackling the subject of sex in great depth. Like a fan, I emailed her, and she emailed me back! Also, I’d like to take this opportunity to say that I love getting emails from people who read my book and have something to say. Can you relate? Do you have a horror story to share? Have a question? I encourage you to reach out if you are so compelled. Madaboutmen98@gmail.com.
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